Mississippi Native: Tonja Murphy

"I've cultivated community in Mississippi by discovering who I am, growing where I am, and encouraging others to do the same."

What does it mean to call Mississippi home? Why do people choose to leave or live in this weird, wonderful, and sometimes infuriating place? Born, raised, and firmly rooted in Jackson, author and motivational speaker Tonja Murphy says she’d only consider leaving “when every need for every child in Mississippi is met. And, of course, this includes every child having a home library filled with books of their choosing.” Books, youth, and community are the running threads in Tonja’s life and work. Today, Tonja shares the ways in which she has crafted a life filled with purpose and connection in her home state.

Tonja Murphy lives in Jackson, Mississippi.

Where are you from?

Jackson, Mississippi

How long have you lived in Mississippi?

I'm Mississippi-born and Mississippi-bred, and when I die, I'll be Mississippi-dead. Growing up in the Shady Oaks neighborhood of Jackson, my childhood was filled with unique experiences. I remember the joy of walking to Grove Park, the excitement of chasing down the ice cream truck for a cool treat, and the thrill of climbing the magnolia tree in my front yard.

What does "home" mean to you? How does Mississippi fit into that definition?

To me, "Home" is more than a physical place. It's a feeling of comfort, belonging, and connection. In Mississippi, I feel safe and accepted, where I can genuinely be myself. It's where I have deep roots and cherished memories, where I've experienced both the joys and challenges of life. Mississippi is not only a place; it's a community that has shaped my identity and holds a special place in my heart.

When people focus on Mississippi being at the bottom of every list, I ask when they last read a book, attended a concert, visited a museum, or attended a sporting event. We top those lists because someone from Mississippi is at the forefront and behind the scenes, ensuring their experience is memorable.